- Hire a cleaning service
- Schedule a visit from a home decluttering/organizing professional
- Find a personal assistant
Voilà! I have no idea if those will help because I haven’t tried them. When you’re living real life, professionals aren’t always in the budget. As you may have noticed, household management can be difficult. I have tried to streamline the process through DIY organizing bins, checklists, meal plans, and schedules. It’s so much more fun to find or create and print and post the projects and spreadsheets than it is to keep up with them.
Like this cleaning schedule. Inspired by someone else’s lovely chart, I created my own and posted it on the wall near the kitchen sink, you know, so I could determine what to do for the day while washing the morning dishes. It gained approval from visitors but let’s just say it’s no longer on the wall.
That’s why you’re not going to see many of these types of posts from me. I’m writing what I know (though I’m thinking of branching into up and coming sci-fi/dystopian parenthood scene). If something has worked long-term for me, I may share it, but it’s come about through a process of trial and error (like this list developed during my four years as a work from home mom, or WFHM (pronounced waf-um). And what I found to work may not in three-months’ time if a curve ball is thrown at schedule.
Let’s just stop self-flagellating with these lists. Yes, it’s tough to stop when someone is posting about how much their toddler’s behavior has improved after using a specific behavior chart (for a few days). Or when you see images of the sparking sinks and smiles. We think to ourselves “I want that.” That loving relationship. That clean house. That well-behaved child. That happiness. And we can be blinded to the beauty already in our lives.
We (and by “we” I mean “I”) have to remember that these are only the briefest of snapshots of cultivated scenes.
“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife or his male servant or his female servant or his ox or his donkey or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” ~Exodus 20:17 (NASB)
We don’t know what effort went into producing these charts and steps. For all we know, that poor woman was just pulling her hair out in frustration and hasn’t showered in a week. Or the only time she looked at her husband this week was during a counseling session. Or she’s so elated to find something that got her toddler to sleep for 30 minutes that she has to use that half hour to tell the world about it. Things are sometimes not what they seem…
All that glitters is not gold (a play on Tolkien’s “all that is gold does not glitter” from The Fellowship of the Ring) Image Source
But before this becomes a dirt-slinging session, let me get back to the point: We are not living our neighbors’ lives. Nor are they living ours.
But each one must examine his own work, and then he will have reason for boasting in regard to himself alone, and not in regard to another. ~Galatians 6:4 (NASB)
We have to remember that it’s not necessarily the person but the source behind them. I know that any good that comes from my direction is a result of Christ.
why are you amazed at this, or why do you gaze at us, as if by our own power or piety we had made him walk? […] And on the basis of faith in His name, it is the name of Jesus which has strengthened this man whom you see and know; and the faith which comes through Him has given him this perfect health in the presence of you all. ~Acts 3:11-16 (NASB)