Being a woman is tough. All our lives, we are taught that good girls do not chase after boys. We are shown that we should be a princess, who has abounding beauty and innocence to captivate and tame their fathers and the most vicious of beasts. But we can never win over the (evil) stepmothers.
We are so set on attaining our beauty and dazzled by our own reflections (and keeping an eye out for The One) that we may be in danger of not recognizing where our true worth lies or realize the power of it could turn the tide of a battle we often do not see.
A man can’t fight through the onslaught to rescue you from your tower, from within your own walls, and bring you back to his palace to set you up as the queen. And expecting him to do so will only seal his failure because 1)it’s not his battle and 2)he can’t even save himself. We’re not born with innate queenly qualifications. I definitely didn’t behave like a queen. No, we have free will to make our own choices. But on what are we to base our decisions? Popular culture tells us that we are to follow our hearts.
Have you met my heart? She be crazy.
No, I decided to submit my heart another’s will. It’s a daily choosing that is no easy task with an innate rebellious nature (and many days I fail).
I want to look to God because He has already provided a rescue–He sent a savior. We don’t need to gaze out our windows awaiting Prince Charming to ride up with the glass slipper to prove we are a perfect match (and let’s face it: most of us are more like the stepsisters jealously vying for everyone’s affections). The best part about Jesus: He lets us choose. He lets us chase Him. In fact, He wants us to. Aptly stated: “We are the protagonists of our love story, not the spectators.” He gives us the freedom to fight.
One of the things I love most about my husband, is not that he’s never made a bad choice. It’s that in the aftershock he turns to Christ for his rescue. And sometimes making that choice is the toughest fight.
Look for someone who has the courage to cover you with love even on your bad days. Find someone you can trust and love through his moments of doubt because you know he will seek God in those moments. Pursue him (it goes without saying, but I’ll say it, passionately pursue him if you are already married to him).
Don’t wait for a Prince Charming to rescue you, look for the warrior ready for battle.
When you have a warrior at your side, you can both prepare for battle.
Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10a (NASB)