Saving Chivalry: A Sister’s Call to Arms

Chivalry… Is it all romantic poems, sighs, and affectionate moments?

The Merriam-Webster simple definition of chivalry

: the system of values (such as loyalty and honor) that knights in the Middle Ages were expected to follow
: an honorable and polite way of behaving especially toward women

How difficult is it to be polite if someone is reminding you that they don’t need you because “I can do everything better than you?” If we grapple with men for power or, the opposite, are too weak to hold our handkerchief, then how can we expect them to work with us? The beauty of chivalry is that we allow the man to use his power to protect us and that we allow ourselves to be taken care of by them. They don’t use power to force our hand. We submit our power.

Submission, it’s a road I’ve walked stumbled down since marriage. I thought I had to face the world alone and take care of myself. And make sure he was up to snuff at handling his own issues, and if not, well, jump in to do it. I’ve only more recently realized this (sorry, husband). And, if I’m being honest, that’s sometimes the attitude of my heart towards God. I don’t make it easy for Him to love me or for myself to receive love.

If we find our selves fighting not the enemy, but the very warriors at our side, should we not consider refocusing our attention? To be a queen willing to fight is admirable, but we must remain queens willing to submit this honor to our warriors.

Sometimes, the best way to fight the enemy is to allow another to take up arms on our behalf.


13 Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. 14 Let all that you do be done in love.

1 Corinthians 16:13-14 (NASB)

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[Image: God Speed by Edmund Leighton]


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